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20 weeks pregnant – Let’s talk gender disappointment

Lets talk gender disappointment

We find out the gender of our baby tomorrow, fingers crossed baby cooperates and lets us see!  I’ve been asked a lot recently how I feel and if I want a girl.  Some people take that further and assume that I want a girl or that I’ll be disappointed if this baby is a boy.  I’ll be honest, there is a part of me that would love to have a daughter and I feel like after this baby arrives our family will be complete so if I don’t have a girl now I believe I never will. If I’m completely honest part of me probably would feel a pang of disappointment that I’ll never have a little girl to dress in pink, go shopping for prom dresses or wedding dresses with and to have that special mother daughter bond with like I have with my mum.

But would I be disappointed if I’m having a boy?  No way!  I think I’m destined to have two boys.  I can see myself running around after two muddy little lads and never fully understanding them but loving every second of trying.  I think that this baby is another boy and I can’t wait to dig out all of Harry’s old clothes to sort out ready for his new sibling.  Part of me would be disappointed if I didn’t get to reuse some of them again! (And that’s not to say I won’t if it’s a girl but I won’t lie and pretend I wouldn’t suddenly become obsessed with all things pink and frilly.)  Harry is a proper lad’s lad and loves male company so I think he would be in his element with a little brother to boss around and every time I picture my future family in my head I see two cheeky boys.

Whether baby is a boy or a girl won’t tell us a single thing about their character or personality.  We could have a girl who likes stereotypical boys things or a boy who likes stereotypical girls things.  We will be over the moon whatever the outcome of the scan tomorrow, as long as our baby is healthy and happy, what more as parents could we ask for?

Weekly quiz

How far along? 20 weeks

How big is baby? Baby is the same size as a banana

Maternity clothes? Only the same as last week.  I’m still too small for most of it though.

Stretch marks? Not yet but I’ve upped my game with the bio oil.

Sleep: I’ve been having crazy dreams and finding it hard to get comfortable this week, I’ve not been sleeping too bad though.

Best moment this week: Taking Harry swimming for the first time!  I know, it’s taken us waay too long but we finally did it and he was a lil pro! He loved it!

Movement: Baby is a wriggly little thing.  I’m feeling lots of pops and swooshes!

Food cravings: I’m back to my nutritious diet of salt and vinegar crisps.  Pringles this week though, not McCoys… McCoys are now on the bad list.

Sickness: The 20 week point has appeared and my sickness hasn’t magically disappeared.  I’m not surprised though, I think I’ve resigned myself to another 20 weeks of this now.

Have you started to show yet: Yep!

Gender prediction: We find out tomorrow!! EEEKKKK!!! What are your gender predictions?  Let me know!

Belly Button in or out? In but getting flatter, especially in the evenings when my belly seems to be bigger.

Wedding rings on or off? On.

Happy or Moody most of the time: I’ve been feeling quite calm, positive and determined this week.

Weekly Wisdom: Don’t put off tomorrow what you can do today, we waited far too long to take Harry swimming because I was scared of getting in and out of the water with him.  We should’ve taken him ages ago and although it’s better late than never I’m disappointed in myself that I let my anxiety put me off doing something for so long.

Milestones: Our last pregnancy update where we don’t know baby’s gender… I hope… as long as baby cooperates tomorrow!

Bump picture

Please ignore the lack of make up and messy hair, we’d just got back from swimming!

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